Important First Steps in Separation + Divorce
WELCOME to the introductory offering in a series of presentations, workshops, and classes on the ABCs of Separation, Divorce, Family Court, and Protective Parenting
This collaboration is between Kaia Alline of Family Cult Recovery and Anuhea Nakoma of Protective Parent Consulting.
No matter what way you look at separation or divorce,
it's not easy.
Whether you're in a partnership that you're questioning, feeling the desire to get out of one, or you've left and are wondering 'now what?' - it's easy to feel overwhelmed with the experience.
We have been there - we get it. With years of collective experience in grief, trauma, communication, documentation, divorce, safety planning, family court, co-parenting and the legal aspects of it all, we bring expertise, experience and support with one goal in mind:
Give you tools to acquire the freedom you desire.
QUESTIONS you might be contemplating:
- How do you know if you're ready to separate?
- Now what? You made the difficult decision to leave your marriage and now you're overwhelmed by the next steps.
- Are you wishing there was a step-by-step instruction book for how to navigate the separation/divorce process?
- Have you left your marriage/relationship but still find yourself holding on and wondering if you made a mistake?
- Is your post-separation ex suddenly acting like a completely different person?
- Are you wondering how to establish a new routine for the children?
- Are you wondering if you need to take safety precautions?
- Are you struggling with figuring out where to live when you leave?
- Wondering why you feel exhausted, irritable or frozen post-separation?
- Have you lost friends or family members after choosing to leave a relationship?
- Wondering how to support your children in the transition of separation?
- Do you know the separation/divorce laws in your state?
- Not sure if you need an attorney or how to choose the right one?
Our solution for these questions:
- Understand the emotional components of what you've been through and are going through.
- Gather the facts about your current situation.
- Get support, tools and expertise to guide you through the process.
- Create plans to support your action steps.
- Feel empowered in your actions and reclaim your self worth, trust and freedom.
This workshop addresses all of these questions and more, and will equip you with everything you need to move forward even through fear.
In this workshop you will learn:
How do you know if you’re ready to separate?
- Emotional rollercoaster clarity: Will he heal? Will it get better if I stay? What’s best for the children?
How to identify a high-conflict or narcissistic person
- PTSD: what it is and how to heal
- How do I co-parent with a narcissist while dealing with PTSD?
How to Identify Abuse within a relationship:
- Relationship abuse, coercive control, gaslighting tactics and financial & post-separation abuse, codependency, rescuing, domestic abuse, financial control, isolating from friends, control of clothes/choices, expectations for dinner, power/control dynamics, limiting safety, choice, connection with others, creating fear, etc.
How does Domestic Violence abuse affect children?
How to get your affairs in order as preparation for divorce
- financial, housing, banking, temporary order, protection
- Know your state laws regarding separation: do you have to move out of the house to be considered separated? Is there a waiting period? Is there mandatory counseling?
- Safety Plans: How to leave a relationship safely
- Parenting Plans: are not one and done temporary ones
- Choosing an attorney
- How a divorce coach can help you
Plus a live Q+A to get specific guidance for your individual situation.
This workshop is needed by anyone overwhelmed as they contemplate separation and divorce. Instead of feeling isolated and alone, feel empowered and grounded as you learn everything from
A-Z to prepare you through divorce and after.
It’s the first chapter in the step by step reference manual for surviving and thriving through the separation/divorce process, coparenting and living your best life.
DETAILS
Date: Wednesday, March 15, 2023, at 6-9 pm Central
Cost: $149
Facilitated via Zoom (audio only)
Resources Provided: Live Q&A to ask your own question, Recording of the Workshop, presentation information in a downloadable format (ebook/document)
ABOUT THE HOSTS
Kaia Alline
I have many roles, including divorce, relationship, parenting, and wellness coach. I am a writer, speaker, facilitator of groups, and a retired therapist with a master's and doctoral degree in mental health counseling. My specialties were empowerment of women, divorce (high-conflict/narcissistic), relationships, navigating the court system, understanding family cults, and putting safety first.
From lived experience, I have healed from narcissistic relationships, codependency, and intense trauma from childhood into her 60s with layers of abuse, incest, and illness. My passion is educating, guiding, and helping other women navigate separation, divorce, and parenting with the knowledge needed to survive and thrive.
You can read more about me at www.familycultrecovery.com and www.kaiaalline.com.
Anuhea Nakoma
Anuhea Nakoma is a divorce Coach and Protective Parent Consultant with expertise in communication and documentation in co-parenting situations, with attorneys, and in other legal situations. She has personal experience in divorcing a narcissist, healing from codependency and PTSD, the ins and outs of choosing an attorney, motions in family court, and self-representation in a supreme court trial. Anuhea brings first-hand experience and lifeproof that healing after divorce, protecting children, and living a beautiful life is possible.